Learning To Be A Boss

h!!""And you're Karen, the new star from the field who's
Karen, ground her teeth as she looked down at hergot to learn to work for Ray."
desk. Instead of the draft report she had expected"I'm not sure I've got much future with him."
when she got back from her meeting, there was a"Sure you do," said Jim. "Ray's actually a good boss."
note from Ted. "I've still got some issues on the report,""A good boss? You heard what happened and you
the note said. "I don't want to show it to you until it'sstill say that?"
ready.""OK, he has a few rough edges, but you'll learn from
Karen pushed back her chair and stood up. She pacedhim."
back and forth in her cube, gesturing with her hands"If I survive."
even though no one was there."You'll survive. Ray's good and he's fair. He's not shy
The final version of the report was due to her boss,…"
"The Field Marshal," on Monday. She would look terrible"He could use a personality makeover."
if the report was either late or not up to her boss's"Karen, you've got to learn to understand Ray. He's
high standards. Karen figured she was way too new inyour boss. It's part of your job to help him succeed.
her position to risk looking bad.When he's in the office work is everything there is to
She looked up, a little surprised to realize that she hadhim."
walked the length of the corridor while she was"So I just learned. He doesn't do chit-chat."
thinking. She always did that when she was upset or"No, he doesn't, but that's OK. If you expect Ray to
excited. Walking just seemed to make her feel better.change or worse, if you expect to change him you'll
She was going to need some help and she figured thehave lots of trouble."
best shot was one floor up. Karen climbed the stairs"I have no desire to change the man. I just want to
and headed toward a cubicle with the light on.survive."
Trying to appear casual, she draped herself over the"That's a start. Just limit your conversation with Ray to
cubicle wall and addressed the occupant. "Got a sec?"work and professional things and do your best to help
"Sure, pull up a chair and unload."him achieve his objectives. You'll do more than just
Karen dropped into the only free chair. She exhaledsurvive."
heavily and stared down at her lap.But if you help him achieve objectives, talk to him
"Ted again?" asked Jim.about work and professional interests, and are always
"How did you know?"ready to act you'll do quite well indeed."
"Because nothing else seems to penetrate your armorThat had been the beginning. Karen, like many others
of enthusiasm as quickly as he does. And because Iat the company had found herself one of "Jim's
know the signs. Anyone who's been a boss for apeople." Some were people who worked for him and
while has had at least one Ted."others, like Karen, were simply people with whom he
"OK, then, smart guy," Karen smiled, "how do I motivateshared his wisdom.
him?"Jim always seemed to have time for people. He was
Jim just stared at her. Karen flushed and reached intosincere and caring and, best of all for Karen,
her purse. "OK, ok, I said the M word and now I'mnon-threatening. Karen had learned a lot from him.
going to pay."Jim taught her that you manage behavior and that
Jim had several rules for the people he mentored. Onebehavior was what people say and do. Nothing else.
of them was that they couldn't ever say that theyHe said you couldn't manage attitude or motivation
were going to motivate someone else. Every timebecause you couldn't see them; they were inside the
they said that, they had to pay a fine.other person. All you could manage, according to Jim,
Jim extended a mason jar filled with coins and billswas behavior.
toward Karen. Theatrically, she withdrew money fromKaren remembered something else he'd told her right
her purse and dropped it into the jar. "At least I'm notafter they met. Jim told her that she had less power
the only one wracking up fines."than before she was promoted.
The amount of the fine wasn't much and Jim put it into"Think about it," he said. "When you were an individual
a fund to buy educational supplies for the families ofcontributor and you wanted to get a better evaluation,
the people who cleaned the office.or a raise, all you had to do was work harder or
"You can't motivate another person," he said over andsmarter. But now you're responsible for your team and
over again. "All you can do is use the behavior youguess what? Their performance is your destiny."
can control to influence the behavior of the peopleThat was when he'd told her something else that she
who work for you."found startling at the time. "Remember," he said, "you
Karen had sure heard that often enough from Jim,can't make anybody do anything."
even though she hadn't been a boss for very long.That had stopped her cold. Karen had always figured
She had an undergraduate degree in business and anthat's what a boss could do. But Jim pointed out that if
MBA. She'd worked during school and then starteda person was willing to take whatever consequences
with the company in sales.you delivered for improper performance, there simply
After her promotion, she was assigned to Ray's unit. Itwasn't much you could do.
was a high performance group, but Ray wasn't"What are you thinking?" Jim's voice interrupted her
always the easiest person to talk to about peoplereverie. "I don't want to rush you, but I've got to head
problems. That was why Karen was glad she hadout to my meeting in just a couple of minutes."
met Jim."I was just going over all your little lessons and
It had started out as one of the worst days of her life.sayings," said Karen. She gave him a quick recap of
She'd only been in her position for a couple of weekswhat she'd been thinking.
and her boss, Ray, had sent her an email"You forgot one," Jim said, "You got the part about
congratulating her on a piece of market analysis she'dyour power going down when you get promoted to
just sent him.being in charge of a group, but what about the other
For no particular reason except that she was pleasedhalf?"
with herself and the compliment, she'd stopped byKaren jumped in as he was finishing. "I didn't realize this
Ray's office to talk about her dreams and hopes forwas a quiz!" She laughed. "I forgot to mention that
the future.when you become a boss your influence goes up
He sat at his desk and listened politely for a couple ofbecause the people who work for you pay attention
minutes. Then he raised his hand.to what you do and say."
"Stop," he said. "You just started working for me, so I'llJim was laughing now, "And …"
forgive this outburst. Know this. I don't do chit-chat. If"And so," said Karen sounding like she was reciting in
you've got something about work to talk to me about,school, "you use your behavior (what you say and do)
my door is always open, but don't waste my time withto influence the behavior of the people who work for
warm fuzzy stuff. Just do your job and do it well andyou."
things will work out just fine."She paused. "All of this is wonderful, but it doesn't help
Karen started to say something as Ray turned backme with Ted."
to his work. He didn't even look up. "Just go," he said.Jim was standing up. "I can't chat right now. We could
Karen was devastated. She went to the cafeteria andtake some time tomorrow, but if you're free this
got some coffee. She was staring into it and listeningevening, you might want to come along with me. I'm
to Ray's words in her mind when she became awareheaded to a meeting of a group we call the
that someone was standing in front of her.Supervisor's Roundtable. It's where I learned a lot of
"I understand you just got the Ray Treatment. Wantthe stuff you were just reciting. I think you might find
some help dealing with your boss?"those answers you're looking for in this group."
"Sure." Karen waved him toward a seat. "You're JimKaren only thought about it for a second. "OK, I'm
Robertson, right?"game. Who's driving?"
Jim was supposed to be a good boss. His teams"No need to drive. We meet at the coffee shop that's
were always among the most productive in theover behind the parking garage. A convenient walk to
company. Jim was also known for mentoring others,wisdom." Jim laughed. "Let's go.
helping them develop and get promoted.