Ignoring Email Messages is Discourteous and Confusing to the Sender

The following email messages (printed in reverse----- Original Message -----
chronological order) offer a quick insight into theFrom: M.O.Hart
deleterious effects associated with educationalTo: ***
conditioning of primary teachers, based on mySubject: Last recourse of the desperate.
personal observations of ***.Dear ***,
----- Original Message -----It seems that what you believe is of little consequence,
Sent: Saturday, June 10, 2006 11:05 PMthe fact is that I have a better degree that you, and I
Subject: Re: printers/Megwrote about your behavioural management issues. As
Dear ****,a direct result, an educational psychologist carrying out
I'm beginning to feel that helping Meg is a forlorn hope. Ia programme of research, wrote back confirming
just had a brief encounter with her, she was inspectingwhat I believed to be true.
Mum’s priory, when I came back from gettingWell, he got back to me, after I annotated and
coffee with Dave, and well, she seems to have nopublished your "reply" (below), but I’m not going
intention of talking to me on any level other then thatto tell you what he wrote. It included some interesting
of an impertinent school child. How to I dismantle thisphraseology such as "last recourse of the desperate".
world she has created in her imagination?He is going to use all this in his thesis as "anecdotal
I wasn’t trying to dominate the discourse in theevidence based on others' personal observations".
way in which she does, I was making a politeThis was written in ink, in the top margin of the
interjection here & there, but if I said it was blackfollowing hand delivered reply, "I am writing you a hand
she would have said it was white and would havereply as the computer would not send this".
ignored me.Dear Michael
I said it, therefore it must be ‘wrong’ andI find your discussion of my supposed cute (awful
she will then say anything to make it soundword) inferiority complex in e-mails an infringement of
‘wrong’. The logic seems to be one ofmy privacy. I also wonder if you equate modesty with
"break the weakest link", characteristically this is doneinferiority. And when I saw the comments by an Ed
by changing the context of what I said or by beingPsych
deliberately obtuse.I'm afraid my credulity (sig) was seriously undermined. I
I believe this to be a self defence mechanism, whichhave had dealings with many Ed. Pcshs (sig) over the
during ‘normal’ interaction, could be a validyears and in that time I only met two who had any
reaction but she seems to be desperately avoidingconnection with reality.
ANY communication that might may ,in someI must also add that I don't know where he found his
unspecified way, end in her being seen to be stupid ,subjects, I assume it was in the plural, but in his findings
god forbid. Regardless of the environment, this is aI don't recognise any of the hundreds of teachers I
typical Meg style reaction.have worked with and met over the last thirty years.
What hope in hell ' s chance of being able to do anyThe language above is interesting:
good do I really have when the result is that I wish I1) "The computer would not send this": I'm not overly
hadn’t bothered. I get this feeling every time Iimpressed, surely a case of a poor workwoman
attempt any level of communication with her, except inblaming her tools in a laughable attempt to refute
a state of affairs in which she wants something. :-)responsibility.
With kind regards,2) "Cute (awful word)": This is a classic avoidance
Michael Harttactic, to dodge conversation, where given the choice
----- Original Message -----between dealing with a problem and ignoring it, a
To: Michaeltypical response is to answer any side issue and
Sent: Saturday, June 10, 2006 01:17 PMrefuseing to acknowledge the real problem, thus
Subject: Re: printers/Megcreating the illusion of action.
Michael3) "Infringement of my privacy": Email is not necessarily
Thanks for keeping me in the loopsubject to protection by intellectual property rights.
I guess the good news is, Is that she is trying to reachEven if this were not the case (the content in question
you in her own way but as an ex school teacher I canis not hers to control), there are exceptions that allow
only assume she is having difficulty like most of themuse of copyrighted works of others because they are
donot considered copying. For example, reproduction of
However you did make me chuckle with theothers' work where it is felt that some more important
correction of Teachers grammer !!!!!and you were kindsocial principles would be violated otherwise.
with your last sentance " .......with grace and beauty. Its4) "My credulity (sig) was seriously undermined": This is
good to see you can rise above it and someone haswhere the real problem arises, a case of "do as I say,
to be the grown up one and I'm pleased to see it isnot as I do". How many times have we all heard that
youexpression, never a particularly inspiring credo, this
Best regardsdoesn't work well. In fact, there's not more than a 50%
----- Original Message -----chance of it ever working.
From: Muchael5) "Teachers I have worked with": An unintelligent
Sent: Saturday, June 10, 2006 9:06 AMargument, obviously another avoidance tactic. By
Subject: Fw: printers/Megdefinition, the study relates to retired teachers.
Dear ****,6) "I only met two who had any connection with
Below is my reply to an email I received from Megreality": If you don't like a theory but can't acknowledge
yesterday, needless to say, I'm not overly impressed!that the evidence exists, then the most sensible thing is
Note that I can’t reasonably see anything lessto provide a plausible alternative explanation. She is
than 12pt, she is well aware of my sight issues but hasattempting to deride the social principle by attacking the
selected a serif typeface in 10pt, (the worst possiblecredibility of the person conducting the research and its
thing you can do)!subjects! The lady protests too much, methinks .
Why can’t she just get over her ego instead ofDear ***,
making poor pretenses, I’ve given her severalI am copying this message to your classicfm address,
opportunities to do something, now two weeks later,as it looks like you may have stopped downloading
she only now makes an effort and then only afterfrom your blueyonder address and just not told
direct instruction!anyone, but I happen to know that this is not the case,
Why is it that I make the effort, she makes thingsyou just never acknowledge the emails I send you.
needlessly difficult, but I’m expected to forgiveThis is most likely a mentality issue, I bet you don't
forget her antisocial behavior/recklessness/inferiorityrespond to any messages, except when people phone
complex!up and ask about them!
That said, if she can accept me as an equal, and notI often send you emails I feel you may find interesting
just because she wants/needs something &or helpful. If you dislike the things I send you, please just
I’m not going to just take her word for it (I nowask me to stop sending them, instead of ignoring them
assume everything she says is a lie until provenin the hope that they’ll just stop. 'Ignoring' email
otherwise), I don’t see any problems, but asmessages is discourteous and confusing to the sender
evidenced by this sign business, she is still under theand will not help much.
delusion that she is a law unto herself.With kind regards,
With kind regards,Michael Hart
Michael Hart----- Original Message -----
----- Original Message -----From: M.O.Hart
From: MichaelTo: ***
To: M.P. THOMASSubject: Power over others for its own sake is by
Sent: Friday, June 09, 2006 08:34 PMdefinition evil.
Subject: Re: printersDear ***,
Dear Meg,An educational psychologist (PhD), found the article I
The following sentence fragment looks like apublished last week about your cute little inferiority
dependent clause with a comma splice, you’recomplex (An Interesting Letter - A Theosophical
also missing a conjunction or two.Article). He liked my "surrogate school children" analogy
"...that would be smashing, Wednesday 'cos I will be atsaying "the situation between you sounds like a typical
the museum."response to her displacement".
Mixed construction notwithstanding, I assume this isHe is studying behavioural management and is
supposed to be something like:presently conducting research into the deleterious
"...smashing, not Wednesday..." (incomplete verb)aseffects associated with educational conditioning in
opposed to:primary teachers.
"...smashing. Wednesday cos I will not be at theHis research shows that female teachers whom are
museum...".unable to discard their conditioning after retirement can
Whatever the case, I have no immediate plans forbecome maladjusted and self-centered introverts. He
anything serious next week, so any time should be fine.believes that the ability to successfully manage
In addition to looking at your new printer. Here areteaching related behavioural issues is critical if they are
some other things worth consideration:to survive outside the classroom in a socially
1) Internet connection sharing - Possibly the best wayacceptable way.
to use your laptop and printer;His basic premise is a perversion of the
2) Using MS Word functionality - "Worster (sic) andteacher-student relationship. In the normal course of
Birmingham canal";events, the teacher's goal is to empower the student,
3) Your Outlook message rules - I wager that youwhere the effect is to create a bond of affection
won’t see mail from ‘michaelohart’;between them which gives both the power "over"
4) Your WIM responsibilities list - I think your email was("for") each other that arises from love.
coerced;The research shows that, in a minority of cases
I look forward to working with you to create a bit ofinvolving middle aged female primary teachers, the
grace and beauty.relationship becomes closer to that of master-slave,
With kind regards,where the master does everything possible to keep
Michael Hartthe slave powerless. (If the slave's power increases,
----- Original Message -----the master's power decreases by an equal factor.)
From: M.P. THOMASThis seems to be the teachers defence mechanism
To: Michaelagainst becoming attached i.e. A teacher allowing
Sent: Friday, May 26, 2006 05:28 PMherself to love her children gives them power over her
Subject: printersinsomuch as the children now have the power to hurt
Dear Michaelher by growing up and leaving.
I haven't forgotten your kind offer to show me whatIf primary teachers are unable to "de-programme"
my new printer can do, but things have been a littlethese rude, insensitive and unapproachable behaviours,
hectic this last week. If you can come round one dayit will ultimately lead to alienation due to them being
next week that would be smashing, Wednesday 'cos I'maladjusted', because they will be unable to interact
will be at the museum.with "young people" in a socially acceptable way after
Megretirement.